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Love Won

It’s all over the news. On Friday, June 26, love won. The Supreme Court made the decision that the ban on same sex-marriage was unconstitutional, therefore legalizing it in all 50 states.

This meant that the state I love so much was finally going to have to accept the marriages of the people I love even more.

This is HUGE. Beyond huge. I was scrolling through all social media that day, so happy I could burst.

For anyone who knows me, I’ve always been a huge supporter of marriage equality and the LGBT community. I went to the pride rally in Frankfort, KY the spring of my senior year and attended the Kentuckiana Pride Fest just a week ago, both just small ways to show my support. More importantly, many of my close friends are part of that community.

Why shouldn’t they be allowed to be as happy as I can someday be?

I’m Catholic. The typical viewpoint is that Christians are the ones opposing all the same-sex equality and spreading nothing but hatred towards it.

This is how I see it: People of the same sex getting married has absolutely no effect on me whatsoever. So who cares? I mean, that sounds kind of harsh, which isn’t how I mean it, but really. If it doesn’t affect you, why should you have so many opinions against it? No one is forcing you to marry someone of the same sex.

The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” – Mark 12:31

After this decision was made, at least in Kentucky, clerks in some counties were refusing to give marriage licenses to anybody, just so they wouldn’t have to issue them to same-sex couples. There’s a reason we have separation of church and state in our country. This is a perfect example of it. If someone works for the state and yet is willing to go the extra measure to make sure their religious beliefs are honored, they shouldn’t work for the state. Simple as that. This would be like if I, a Panera Bread associate, was a vegetarian and therefore refused to sell food containing meat to anyone.

I was raised to know that someday, I will find a man who will make me the happiest girl on the planet and I’l marry him. Which is fine. I’m straight, so yes, hopefully that does happen. But now, I’m going to be able to tell my kids that there is a person out there for them. A man, a woman, whomever their heart desires. And they can marry that person now anywhere in the United States.

This is so important. We have seen history change. We hear our parents saying to each other, “Where were you when 9/11 happened?”. Our grandparents ask, “Where were you when Martin Luther King Jr. died?”. And now we’ll get to ask each other, “Where were you when love won?”.

I’ll tell you where I was. I was sitting in the bathroom, about to take a shower. My friend Noah posted on our group chat, “Apparently the Supreme Court ruled that gay couples are allowed to marry”. And I swear to you, my heart burst. Knowing that now, I’d get to see some of my best friends get married was more than I could handle. My friend Devin posted about how her aunts could finally get married, and I cried. I’ve met these ladies once mind you, but I still cried for them. I spent the rest of the day annoying everyone on social media with posts about this historic event.

That night, I went to Play Louisville and watched a drag show. One of the performers asked if anyone had been married that day in the crowd, and two male couples got on stage. And, you guessed it, I cried again.

There was this big argument going on on Tumblr about how the “straight allies” had no right to be posting about how happy they were about this decision and how they shouldn’t be allowed to use the rainbow filter. I had a lot of problems with this. It was almost reverse discrimination on a day that was supposed to be about love. So, in accordance with everything that was going on that day, I chose to overlook it and continue to share my happiness and spread my love to the people that were so happy on this day.

This is going to be a day I know I will never forget. I don’t know the last time I’d been so happy over something in politics, which I usually don’t have an interest in. But this just meant so much to me because I knew how much it would affect those I love. There’s always going to be bias against this from people who just don’t understand. And the fight against discrimination is far from over. But this is a huge milestone in this struggle, one that deserves to be celebrated for a long, long time.

In closing, there’s the snippet from the decision that I, and many others, just love:

“No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were. As some of the petitioners in these cases demonstrate, marriage embodies a love that may endure even past death. It would misunderstand these men and women to say they disrespect the idea of marriage. Their plea is that they do respect it, respect it so deeply that they seek to find its fulfillment for themselves. Their hope is not to be condemned to live in loneliness, excluded from one of civilization’s oldest institutions. They ask for equal dignity in the eyes of the law. The Constitution grants them that right. The judgment of the Court of Appeals for the Sixth Circuit is reversed. It is so ordered.”

It is so ordered.

2 thoughts on “Love Won”

  1. Hey, I would like to say that one of the main problems some people on Tumblr had with straight people had with people using the rainbow filter over their profile pic is that some of the straight people using it were actually kind of homophobic and very transphobic. I am friends with you on Facebook and I follow you on Twitter, and I can see that you are not in that group of straight allies, but when a member of the LGBTQIA+ community sees someone with a rainbow profile picture who they know to be homophobic/transphobic, when that person may have made a homophobic/transphobic aggression against that member, I makes us rather uncomfortable.

    1. And while that may be so, I still have a problem with that too. Because what it seems like is that straight people are being viewed as evil until they can prove otherwise. Which isn’t fair. This was all about equality and while one group received the equality they so deserved, they’re beginning to treat others without the same equality. a LOT of my friends had that rainbow filter on their profile pictures, most of them straight, and absolutely NONE of them are like those you’re describing. I get the hesitance but all the hatred isn’t necessary. People need to be given the benefit of the doubt, ESPECIALLY during this huge war against equality. I’m not trying to bash anyone of course, but it really pisses me off that I’m being viewed that way all because of a filter on a profile picture. I’m one of the most supportive people to this community and it kills me to know that I’m being viewed as bad or whatever. Where’s the equality in that?

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